I am a mother of two college age sons and one teenage daughter. I love them dearly. They are each unique and it’s a privilege to help them navigate these critical years.

I didn’t realize how much my “guidance” was really about control and insecurity. I had unrealistic expectations of what their life “should” look like. I didn’t want them to make the mistakes I’ve made or learn things the hard way.

Above all else, I didn’t want to “fail” in my most important role as their mother.

If they succeeded in the things I thought were important, I could tell myself I was a good mom.

I spent a lot of time looking outside of myself for acceptance, validation, and praise. Not realizing the stress and anxiety I was creating for myself and my children came from my desire to be “right”. All because I couldn’t see some very obvious blinders in my vision.

Coaching and nervous system management changed how I see my children and myself. It changed every relationship in my life.

I’m glad I invested in my own growth and changed before my children go off to college.